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What does it mean to live a brave life? There are as many
answers as there are people in this world. For me, living a brave life means
doing the things you have always wanted to do but were too scared to do. Or too
insecure to try. Or too busy to get started. To live a brave life is to live a
life we want. A life we choose. A life dedicated to our authentic self. Life is
too short to be doing anything less.
But to get to that authentic, brave life, sometimes our
lives have to shatter so we can put it back together in a more genuine way.
We all have the image we have created of our lives. We see
the image that is currently the reality of our lives. And around the reality,
we often construct images that we imagine or hope might happen. Inevitably, the
glass in front of that image forms fractures. That’s just the way life goes.
Things go askew—they don’t go quite as planned. But, we continually work around
the fracture. We work to make the picture just right by
fixing the fracture and moving on.
But most likely in everyone’s life, something happens that
goes beyond a fracture— your life shatters. Your entire picture, the world you
always knew, shatters around you. You cry, you get angry, you give up, and then
you finally start to piece together a new picture from those fragmented pieces
of your life. The thing you might not have considered when glass was raining
overhead is that the new picture you are about to create has the potential to
be much better than the original. You have to gather the fragmented pieces that
were your life and you have to look long and hard at each individual piece. You
have to decide: Do I want this piece in my new picture? You keep some shards of
your former picture, you incorporate the pieces of your new reality, and you
toss the rest.
Before July 27, 2011, there were fractures in my life, to be
sure. Failed relationships. Agonizing decisions about school and work.
Overcoming weaknesses and developing a set of core values. But the image I had
of my life remained fairly intact as I worked around the fractures.
Then my life shattered. At
the age of 32, nothing could have prepared me for the words: “We got the test
back and your tumor is cancerous.” With those words, all I ever thought about
my life crashed down on me. I sat crying on the green metal bench on Swede
Alley, under a warm Park City summer day and rustling aspen trees, while
employees at Main Street Pizza Noodle took their break on their back stairs. The
beauty of the day was harshly juxtaposed with the words coming from the nurse practitioner’s mouth. Only 9 days before, she had
breezily told me: “98% of lumps are nothing and you’re so young, you don’t need
to worry.” So I didn’t. She had gone to a lot more medical schooling than I
had, so I trusted that if she said I would be fine, I figured it would be fine.
After all the non-worry, however, there I was, on July 27,
sobbing uncontrollably, barely able to speak. And mostly all I could think was:
“My life is over.”
I cried all the way home. I cried all night. And I cried
with each person I had to tell. Because when you say, “I have breast cancer”
and you’re 32, people can’t believe it.
I thought nothing could be okay after that.
Of course, those who know me well know I can be a bit dramatic
(okay, okay...a lot dramatic at times!). Of course my life was not over—it was never
in much jeopardy, really. Breast cancer can be very treatable. I had surgery. I
had tests. I had radiation. I was exhausted. I have to take
drugs for 5 years. But overall, medically, it was not as aggressive or as bad
as it could have been.
And so here I am, 2 years after that diagnosis. That
shattered image I had is still being put back together in a thoughtful, sometimes slow, process. But I
look at each piece that I find lying around me. Many pieces have been tossed. I
decide which pieces will fit back in my life. Life, as it turns out, isn’t over,
it’s just beginning. It might sound cliché, but this is why I believe life is
too short to put that image back together exactly as it was before it shattered.
Life is too short to be timid. Life is too short to be unhappy. Life is too
short to be scared. Life is too short to let insecurities rule.
But, if our lives never shatter, how will we come to
ourselves? Each time I pass the month of July, I am grateful for the
opportunity to live my life. Live being the key word.
Last summer I saw a quote on a marquee sign in a Wyoming town, which
I think sums up all my ramblings:
“Life is good. So live it.”
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| My July 2013 Escape: Mirror Lake explorations! |
